This week we sat down with Kristel David on our latest podcast episode. Kristel is a business owner, wife to former NFL player and Super Bowl Champion, Jason David, and mother to four beautiful girls. With ten years of business experience behind her, Kristel is embarking on her own endeavor to empower women, wives and mothers everywhere. We got to ask Kristel about her company, Wife Complex, and received great advice on how women, wives and mothers can find their Inner FOX.
The great Sophia Loren once said “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” It is common for mothers to lose pieces of themselves as they make their children the top priority. The Wife Complex inspires women not to lose themselves and to discover (or rediscover) who they are as women and/or wives. Here are five tips for not losing yourself.
- Leave the Mom Guilt Behind
Guilt can be a crippling piece of motherhood. Moms can often feel intimidated by other “supermoms” especially if they are choosing to work rather than be a stay at home mom. Kristel reminds us that every family is different. Every parent is different and every kid is different. What may work for one family may not for another, and no mom should judge herself as long as she is making the right decision for herself and her family.
- Recognize the Effects of Social Media
Another easy way to feel lost in who you are is to compare yourself to others on social media. Scrolling past hundreds of professional photos of gorgeous people is going to have an effect on your mindset, even if it’s just subconsciously. Stay mindful and present when you are scrolling through. Recognize that what you see on Instagram isn’t reality. Find your balance between what is real and unreal. Social media can be a great marketing tool if you are small business owner. Don’t be afraid of it but proceed with caution.
- Discover (or Rediscover) Your Inner FOX
We love Kristel’s term Inner Fox. Your Inner Fox may be the lady who existed before she got spread too thin with all of her duties as a wife or mom. Has self-love taken a seat on the back burner? Take some time and think about what makes you feel sexy and alive. Write down a list of times when you have felt powerful, when you have been at your foxiest. Try to think of things you can do to incorporate this feeling into every day. Come back to this when you’re feeling mom-guilty or overwhelmed by your endless to-do list.
- Empower Yourself and Empower Your Kids
Wife Complex is a space where women can talk about what they struggle with. This can empower women to realize that they have similar struggles and give them a safe space to relate to one another. Typically, women might feel they need to be strong for their families and stifle their own needs, however finding fulfillment can improve a woman’s overall happiness. Empower yourself by embracing your challenges and remember what makes you, you.
And don’t forget that by empowering yourself you are empowering your children. Kristel reminded us that kids are meant to be independent too. We’ve all seen a “helicopter” mom but that may be stifling your kid’s empowerment as well as your own. All children will eventually leave the nest so let them find independence as you also navigate your own.
- Keep Yourself Alive
Kristel’s biggest piece of advice: “You have to keep yourself alive.” You have to find your passion and what gives you fuel to live life at its fullest. Take time to discover your passion. Many women find they are not fulfilled in their careers so it might be time to reconsider what your passion is. And don’t let fear keep you from staying alive. Kristel reminds us that fear and overanalyzing can cause us to become paralyzed. Don’t let the fear hold you back, take an action, however small, to move forward. You might be surprised by what happens when you take a few small steps.
At the end of the day, ask yourself “what is my legacy?” Dig into what makes you happy and what you are good at. Protect that piece of yourself and don’t let it go. Don’t forget that you are not just a mom or just a wife, you are a Fox. More of Kristel’s advice can be found on her blog www.wifecomplex.com